God has my best interest here. But it’s never right to put 100% responsibility onto anyone to support you financially. 2 or 3 months later, he confessed to me. I can totally empathize here. I never really knew him like that. There is no benefit in wondering ‘what if’, but instead let go. Even though it hard for me to do, I have to try and let it go. After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope. Never miss a post again!, sign up for email alerts today. She refuses to see that my lack of religion most of my life didn’t mean I wasn’t close to God. Good. I have really been struggling getting over my abusive partner. Do u think if I prayed for that man to change that would be the best revenge ? Earlier this year, My father passed away and girl I loved and cared for very much broke up with me. I was hurt with God and with him. This doesn’t mean every dating relationship should end in marriage, but it does mean breakups will hurt. Right now I’m just waiting in prayer. Shortly after I had a feeling that my relationship was not right and we needed to break up. He gave his life to Christ a year and a half prior to us meeting. Well, actually God’s NO is not always definitive otherwise there would be many desires from the past which we would never achieve! I totally understand how you must be feeling after your last breakup, but I think that God wanted you to know that there are godly man after his own heart out there. I wasn’t thinking it was going to effect my last relationship. God knew otherwise. I prayed before we getting closer, i said ‘Lord, don’t me fall for any guy if he is not the one.’. My boyfriend is a preacher’s kid but “in the world” as am I . I was disobedient to God by having a sexual relationship with him and God told me many times that He is going to remove this man from my life because i do not put God first. I need to maintain a godly relationship,but my boyfriend keeps on having sex with me, we’ve broken up severally on this issue and it seems consistent . When we broke up, I was relieved and never looked back. Her and her “husband”, the husband being the friend which I am beseeching guidance to help herein, we’re still extremely close friends and highly in contact with one another at the time. I idolized my girlfriend way more than god. Thanks a lot Justine for sharing this, I have been in a relationship for more than 3 years and I felt I loved the girl only for her to come and say she wanted to full time ministry and she preferred a guy who is doing such hence she has no peace in the relationship. And that he may put us back together ? Kim, God did not do this to us, HE allowed it for our good somehow. I disagree with you. Is it possible for God to give us people we feel nothing. I have been praying more than ever for us to work it out..but I’m so confused because this pastor had never told us wrong through a prophetic word. But to be honest, I did cared for him. It would be a lie if I said that I wasn’t hurt and I did have an emotional downfall about it. One thing, however, that sticks out to me is that you are fearful, doubtful and anxious. It’s nothing to hide or be ashamed of. At this point I’m putting a lot of weight on the dream my sister had. The reason doesn’t always present itself right away, but usually it is for our good. I wanted to be the bigger person. God told my beat friend(girl) that we can’t be together. Hello. Thank you, You are so welcome Michael. Still awaiting trial. My main driver for pursuing a relationship was oftentimes society’s pressure to be boo’d up. He has a better plan, he has a better choice for us to take in the future. This man is so stubborn, and though he is Christian; he tends to get into his own head to the point where I am worried he ignores God’s voice. God moves in those who have nothing and consider themselves nobody humbly in front of the Lord. How to end a friendship. I love God with all my heart and soul!! My boyfriend left me after I found out I was pregnant and now he’s seeing the girl in my building. Blessings, Justine. It may be that you’re getting closer to God and they’re getting further away from God. They found her controlling and manipulating. Is it possible that God would end a relationship temporarily in order for growth emotionally and spiritually ? But what is the difference between infatuation and love? Justine, thank you very much for your support. Not legally at least. I keep on getting messages that my breakthrough is on the verge of manifistation. However, it sounds like have a lack of trust in God. It’s not just working. Thanx a lot Justine. I’ve never been in a relationship before, but I can contemplate this to the other divisions of my life when God says no to some. I have made a public profession of Faith and I have been going to worship services and reading my bible and daily devotionals. Through out the years I’ve prayed to go for sign which have all come through dreams. It didn’t take Him long at all to answer that prayer. My ex-boyfriend was not the one God had for me. Thank you for this blog. U know what I have been in relationship for a year and half after that we broke up he was my first and I still love him but I know God’s no is for better I believe only that but my heart is still with him don’t know what to do with my heart, I feel for you and know exactly what you are going through. However he become aware that the new person of which she was dating was a bit higher up in comparison to the previous abusive boyfriend in the local community tied in with drug use. However Ive been feeling in my heart that right now we’re totally out of sync. After I read this article I wept and I was very sorry to God. I’m obsessing over these convictions so bad that I can’t enjoy the relationship as much as I want to . To give a bit of insight and some it up so anyone reading can understand what I’m really dealing with it’s like this; I meant the woman who is his ex-wife now in 2015. You may be praying for God to cure your sudden onset of migraines, the frequent anxiety attacks, or other stress related conditions. They are also necessary as part of life and especially when it comes to our relationship with God. We secretly hope that God will understand and improve our job or relationship. I noticed on one of his games his brother was speaking to his ex girlfriend while his current girlfriend was at work and he was at home taking care of their special needs son. We stopped talking since last month and I keep having the feeling that I should persevere and keep praying about it and that little voice or feeling am having pisses me off cause from the physical look of things we done but I don’t know for otherwise. From past experience, be it relationships, or not, I have seen God say no, simply because He had better plans in store for me for the greater good. So I got angry. Her purpose for this site is to help women attract and maintain a godly relationship, by teaching self-love, mastery of the mind and confidence. Your past relationship had a very traumatic event happening and it’s important that you acknowledge and deal with that. According to the Oxford Dictionary, infatuation is: ‘an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.’, ‘patient, kind. It’s been a year and you did well by using the time to focus on yourself. I lived him but for him it was infatuation, although he claimed to love me. still haven’t reconciled with him til this day ….. wow . Or do u think I’m disobeying God as He asked me to let him go. I want to try and not so that he and I can be together but for my own relationship with God. The above these three points explain why God will sometimes end a relationship. Her dating advice and relationship advice is faith-based but practical and sourced from her own and other people's life experience. I honestly think that this should be a wake-up call for you. They share grandchildren and it is becoming very clear that there is not going to be a grant witch involvement can be compromised they’re both civil and he doesn’t try anything so to speak at Gathering such as birthdays however he does make it more difficult and awkward for her to attend especially with the new boyfriend being her primary mode of transportation at times and the boyfriend having to have taken out a restraining order on my friend because his threats in implications prior to divorce being granted. Again we may have been just 15 but to remain in my heart for 40 year! We who know HIM will have an eternity of no more sorrow or pain HE will dry our eyes, so there still will be pain until the end. Now I understand thanx. Did he make you feel closer to God? Then I stalked him again and realized this woman and him went to their home country at the same time. How do I move on? I saw that as the way I needed to live my life, in Christ. I had a yearning and loved that about her. So God’s answer to your desires can perfectly be YES but sometimes the YES is only meant for short time to help us and this desire might just be a tranistion to something better. I got along with his kids and family so well; we would go to church, which I loved. But he SOMETIMES if it don’t upset his life or choice, made sure I am good.. please someone help me. If he wants a relationship, then the two f you need to establish what it should look like. Every day, I would beg God to restore the “love” my ex-boyfriend and I had for each other. I was in a dead-end relationship for over a year before eventually letting go to find someone I truly love. After he broke up with me, I felt a sense of relief washing over me, almost liberating and I could finally sleep properly since being in the relationship. Same day I heard God saying “I love you like this man” guess what he unfriended/unfollowed me on all social media platforms started treating me like an enemy. Thank you so much for this article. Your happiness and self-worth should not depend on anyone else but yourself. I know I’m unattractive, overweight, below average and I had come to terms with it – I had no desire to put myself out there and was happy to go through life how I was. So he began making inflated promises to which he thought he would win her over with, which failed of course. I easily fell into the trap of idolizing relationships – even friendships. In this case, You can’t get mad at God when He removes the wrong one from your life to make room for the right one. Thank you for sharing this article. I don’t usually read articles but God led me to this particular one and I surprisingly I read it to the end. Well we tried pushing for almost a yr till I finally told him he could stop if he’s stop if he wants to cause I too could understand. Like could his no but a no for the time being or forever? A relationship that does not have a purpose, is oftentimes built on infatuation. I hope I will once see if He really exists for me, I really do. And because of this I’ve never gotten saved or been baptized . What about friendships? I will pray for you. Its been a week , and Im dying inside . Hi Justine Because He created us and redeemed us, God doubly owns us. I’m still praying to God if He can give me my relationship back. However, I am convinced that God always wants us to put him first, especially in our relationships. Therefore, I would try to make it work no matter what, which made me compromise my core values and forget about my self-worth. Now after feeling this I was puzzled why God let me go through this mess again after my trauma is this guy is gonna be this bad ? I always felt he complained about me or told them everything I confided in him. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this quote wasn’t talking about real love but it was talking about superficial love. I also couldn’t understand why God kept this going for so long if I was his backup plan. Even though your boyfriend is a great resource, I think it’s healthy to not lean on him solely for establishing your faith. I still receive promises from God that He will restore us and that it will be better than before. Hey Kasie. I proposed to her on 03/06/2019 because i have grown to truely love her despite her faults but ever si;ce i proposed it has been issues after the other. He still has many things here that he keep saying he coming for but when he do come he only takes a couple things and go, but you can see he misses me. I prayed and many men came along but I let them go as God showed me at a very early stage they weren’t good Christians. Trust me, I feel you. I have a post that explains what (un)equally yoked means in detail. To this day I remember how much pain I felt after my last breakup. I don’t know what is going on but each day I pray for strength to get through the day. This quote is taken from a chapter in Leo Buscaglia’s book “Love: What Life Is All About”. But through all this I still have this uneasy feeling and know that I cannot continue the relationship without God’s blessing. Yes, it felt like love but I idolized him and I had to take a break. great reminder at the beginning of the year…great even if God has said YES to someone…but it also applies to when God says NO to something! I feel so alone. Things suddenly began to go rough for me and the series of breakups started. She has really rendered me devastated, confused, and really heart broken. I am writing this comment with tears of joy. At first, I connected with this quote because I felt like it described my past relationships very well. I realize it’s all bargaining in his delusional contextual way but I’m at a loss of how to effectively and faith-baseidly effectively help him or adequately advised him without him misinterpreting my support to him as validation to his manner and mode of thinking and coping currently. So I met someone on a Christian dating site. God created you to enjoy and thrive … All I wanted was marriage with a happy ending. As a matter of fact, it is very possible to make a wise choice and have a bad outcome. It hurts bad because I was just so sure he was the one but in all actuality I was idolizing him and the relationship, ending over backwards and I am just so hurt. And if he just wants friendship you have to set boundaries, so that you can protect yourself from falling for him. I wanted to wait until marriage to be intimate with him, but we kinda stumble and I felt God was really not happy and he kept saying end the relationship. I put into Google “that God says about the man who left you” I was subsequently led here and so i just wanted to share my story and say thank you, Justine. One thing is that I’m blessed with brilliant intuitions and have never been wrong .i realized he wasn’t in love with me after seeing this but with this women and was waiting for this woman and as soon as she would say yes to him he was gonna dump me. But I pray that you are able to trust him even in the midst of uncertainty. I can’t explain why it is happening, but I know you can trust God that it happens for a reason. Yes I felt ashamed to but shame is on them forever, they will never be free and will ultimately end up in hell forever if they do not repent. At the end of the day you are responsible for discerning God’s will in the depths of your own heart, and sometimes this means making choices that your extended family doesn’t support. The great loose of my life. It might even begin to feel like all that time you sank into something that ended was useless. After all, no one wants to end up in an unhappy marriage or divorce. I believe God’s plan can be any of the above. GOD BLESS…..Psalm 37:4, This is my EXACT story as well. We were so happy until he started calling, texting, and seeing me less. God stopped the relationship and im left feeling deflated and disappointed and sad but i trust God and know that His wisdom is far more than mine can ever be. If you resonated with them, then chances are that they are the reason why God took away a relationship. For women, it is very often the desire to be married. After over 2 years, I am learning again about God’s plan and how it unfolds. Personal Evidence for God: If you want to begin a relationship with God now, you can. Shall I give up or keep praying for our prophetic word to come to pass? Hearing God say ‘no’ has been a hard challenge for me. You may not even realize how damaging the relationship is. I couldn’t believe it. Maybe super human people. I know one may be that him and his family don’t believe in God, but isn’t there a possibility that that could change? So don’t think for one minute that just because you have problems, God wants you to flee. Sometimes those reasons make me confused and more confuse. Honoring God or giving in to your and his lust. I noticed in August his obsession with this world of Warcraft game was real. I knew the relationship wasn’t Godly, but I felt like it would get better in time. And he 42. And that journey is still breaking me to this day. 6 months is a long time to still be hung up on him and I believe that it won’t stop unless you decide to exit the emotional rollercoaster. and God in His time was telling me this is no ordinary friend. It grew worse and depression settled in. God is always in control we may have our own plans and thoughts of what our future will be but God knows our beginnings, in betweens and end. God’s no has been exceptionally hard for me during this breakup… but, I’ve been hearing a ‘not right now.’ I’d love to hear your take on when God gives you a ‘not right now.’ There is still hope in my heart which hasn’t left. The pastor delivered a prophetic word to us together saying that he will ask me to marry him and that we will have a child together etc..she went on to say that when he asks me to marry him..she hears me saying- boy stop playing..( as I always joke around with him) But he’s not playing this time and we will be married..however, before this will happen our relationship will turn for the worse and begin to fall apart..reason being there will be people around him that are dress in sheep clothing..meaning the devil is going to try to distract it in every way possible and through people that he has known for years or is kin too. 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